Are you loving what you do?

It’s a simple question.  Very basic.  But, it’s also a question that terrifies a lot of us, if we stop to think about it.

I’ll just ask you straight out…

Are you loving what you do?

I mean, we all “do” something.  We have some kind of job, or something that keeps us busy.  Do you love what you do?  I’ll be honest… in general, I do love what I do.  Partly, because for the most part, I do what I want to do.  Every morning, when I wake up, I decide what I want to do that day.  I don’t have to get up at a certain time, take a shower and head to the office.  I don’t have to report to any certain person.  However, I have to answer to myself.  And, you know what? I am the toughest boss that I have ever had. I started working pretty regularly at age 12.  I am 47 today.  I’ve been working for myself since I was about 31 years old or so.  I don’t recall ever having a boss that was as tough on me as I am.

I like it that way, though.

Steve Jobs of Apple Computer

Steve Jobs of Apple Computer

You know who Steve Jobs is, right?  Jobs is the founder and CEO of Apple Computer.  He’s really a self-made man.   I don’t always see eye-to-eye with Jobs.  We have somewhat different life strategies in many ways.  I do respect him for what he has done, though.  Steve Jobs said something at an address to Graduating Students at Stanford University:

“For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” – Steve Jobs

I couldn’t agree more on that statement.  Brilliant.

How I started doing what I love

I started “doing what I love” in 1992.  It all happened quickly.  Up to that point, I had always had a job.  I thought you were supposed to have a job.  Most people think that.  Most people get up in the morning dreading their day of going to work.  They can’t wait for the weekend so that they can do what they want to do.  Well, why not do what you want to do every day?  That’s what I do.

You see, in 1992, I had taken a trip out of the country for a few weeks.  When I got back to the States, I went to work, and was immediately fired.  It is the only time I was ever fired from a job.  It is, though, the best thing anybody ever did for me!  I couldn’t thank my employer enough!  I didn’t look at it that way when it happened.  I was devastated.  I am still unsure exactly why I was fired, because I had done nothing wrong.  But, that’s beside the point.  Although it took me some time, after I had time to consider it, I realized that it was quite liberating to be “on my own,” so to speak.

During the ensuing 17 years, I did go back to a “regular job” for about 2 years.  Other than that, though, since getting fired I have always been self employed.  Today, I can’t really say any single thing that I “do” for a living.  I have lots of different things I do.  I have many businesses.  Some of my businesses go years between making money.  Some of my businesses make money every day.  When I get up in the morning, I tend to concentrate my efforts on whichever business I feel like messing with on that particular day.

What was it Steve Jobs said?  When he looked in that mirror and asked if he “wanted to do” what he was about to do that day, if he said “no” too often, he needed to make an adjustment, right?  Well, I don’t look into that mirror, and I doubt that Jobs literally did either, but I make a similar decision each day.

From time to time, each of us must do something that we would rather not do for a day or two.  Even me.  Yes, most days I do whatever I want to do.  Some days, though, I have to concentrate on something I would prefer to not do.  But, that’s life.  As long as those “do what you have to do” days are not what I have to do too often, well, I’m OK with that.  Because I know that in just a few days, I will get to do what I want to do again.

I didn’t come up with my personal motto immediately when I got fired from my job.  In fact it took me about 15 years before I realized what my motto was.  But, even though I did not realize it was my motto, my daily life has been lived by this motto for many, many years already:

Do what you are passionate about, and what you enjoy.  If you are passionate about it, the money will follow.  – Bob Martin

Language Learning

Learning is something that is good for us.  It is good for our brain to engage it regularly.  In modern life, a lot of activities that many of us engage in do not really stimulate our brain very much, so it is important that we actively seek out activities that really exercise our brain.

Think of your brain like a muscle.  When you go to the gym, or engage in exercise of some kind, your muscles become more toned, they develop, they get stronger.  If you are a smart person, your brain has the ability to develop and learn things.  However, you must exercise your brain in order for it to get the maximum benefit, and for it to be able to learn more.

About 2 years ago, I started learning a new language.  The language that I am learning is not a well known language, but it is the primary language where I live.  I am an American, and I live in the Southern Philippines.  I have lived here for nearly a decade already.  But, up until about 2 years ago, I did not make a serious effort to learn the language here.  Many people here can speak enough English to get by, so I did not motivate myself to learn the language widely spoken here, which is called Bisaya.

This is me with my language teacher, Bebe

This is me with my language teacher, Bebe

I have a teacher who comes and gives me lessons once per week at my house.  She is an excellent teacher.  I did make two earlier attempts at learning the language, but I was not motivated enough and did not go beyond the very elementary stages of learning the language.  Now, though, with the right attitude, a willingness to learn, and the proper teacher, I am nearly fluent in the language.  I can carry on a fairly in depth conversation in the Bisayan language, and feel fairly comfortable in doing so.

The point to this, though, is that learning a language has really changed my way of thinking.  It has opened my mind to new ideas, not only ideas about the language itself, but the way that I think about the culture here has also changed for the better.  I am more open to accepting things that would normally be outside my box.  Getting outside your box, while challenging, is also a stimulant in itself.  Allowing your brain to think differently, and notice things that you would normally dismiss with only minimal recognition is a great habit to get into.  It helps you not only discover new things about the world and about yourself, but it also re-invents who you are in many ways.

Over the past couple of years, I have mostly learned through studying.  Reading books about the rules of the language.  Studying lists of vocabulary words, and memorizing them.  Some words have been tough to learn, and I have had to resort to tricks to make my mind remember.  For example, the Bisaya word for “farm” is “uma.”  I had a hard time remembering that.  Then, I told myself that Uma Thurman, the actress, lives on a farm.  I have no idea if she really does, I kind of doubt she does.  But, it was just a trick that helped me remember that “Uma” was “Farm.”  So, playing these little tricks helped my brain pick up on these various things that I was trying to learn.

Now, after a year and a half or so of “book learning” I started feeling comfortable enough in the language that I decided to try to use the language as much as possible when I was out in public.  I even make special trips to stores and to the public market specifically for the purpose of spending a few hours talking to people in their language.

Actually using the language in regular, normal conversation gave my mind a new way to learn!  Not only was I studying from a book, but I was picking up on the way the real people spoke in real day to day life.  Real spoken language is not always the exact same thing as language in a book!  By taking on this new way of learning, I found that I was easily learning concepts that I could never properly remember when I was just reading a book!  There were several key breakthroughs that came to me this way.  I knew these things from the book, but always had trouble remembering them when needed.  But, after just a few uses in regular spoken language, these became very natural to me.

So, my experience in learning the language has given my mind a new exercise that it was not used to.  Just like if you added sit-ups to your morning exercise routine, you started using a new muscle, learning the language, and doing so by different methods has exercised different parts of my brain that were probably pretty dormant before.  It’s a good feeling to see development happening in my brain, and how that manifests itself in my daily life.

Exercise your brain!  Force it to go outside the box!  I think you’ll be happy that you did it.  I know I am!

Finding Blame

Recently, I wrote an article on another website of mine, the Live in the Philippines Web Magazine.  The site is all about expat living in the Philippines.  The article was entitled “A Bad Habit to get into.”  As a matter of fact, it was that article that got me thinking and made me decide to start this particular site.

Anyway, that article was about finding blame when things go wrong.  In particular, it was about blaming the fact that my wife and I live in the Philippines when things in our life are not just perfect.  You know the feeling… “If we had only not moved to the Philippines…”  That sort of thinking is not a good thing.  It is not productive.

Basically, in life, such blame can be placed in many different areas.  For instance, you could blame a person when things go wrong.  You could blame an event.  You could blame a thing.  Whatever, or whoever you blame, it is not productive to do so.

Following the path to personal responsibility

Following the path to personal responsibility

Blame is such a negative thought and feeling.  Taking personal responsibility is an empowering way of thinking.  When you take personal responsibility for what happens in your life, not only are you taking the blame yourself, but you are also taking the credit!  You are saying that you are in control.  Being in control is always empowering, and the right way to go, particularly for an intelligent person.

Avoid blame.  It has no productive place in your life.